Friday, 20 December 2013

Jumuah Mubarak

On this glorious day of Friday, the day of Jumah, I wish everyone a beautiful day. May all your needs be fulfilled and all your duas, supplications and prayers be answered. May you bask in the mercy of God and be guided by His light... Jumuah Mubarak..

Saturday, 14 December 2013

New Beginnings and Happy Endings

Whoa. So the last two months has been an absolute whirlwind. From a new job to my first car and then my birthday celebrations. I'm so glad to be on holiday and finally have the time to take it all in. I seriously haven't had the chance to process it all. And in all honesty, I'm glad and grateful for that. Work has been so hectic, stressful, exciting, challenging and most importantly, fulfilling. Not being able to sit back and take it all in simply means that I have been on a fast track to the success I had been craving this year..
Buying my first car was completely terrifying yet exciting. Making a decision to let go of hard earned money is never easy. Even though it was a second hand I couldn't help feeling a sense of pride in accomplishing such a major milestone at the age of 21 on my own. And now that Ford holds a special place in my heart..
That car has since then been to various destinations, far and near. The most memorable trip being to the outskirts of Hillcrest on a journey to find the best paintba arena. And boy was that a journey! Okay, so it wasn't as far as Jhb or something but nevertheless it was truly epic. My six friends and I had made the decision to go paintballing for my birthday. And we stuck to that decision regardless of the fact that Durban was a dreary, rainy sight last Saturday. None of us has regretted that decision. From falling in the mud to getting shot in the face, we couldn't have had anymore fun. The rest of the day was just amazing as we sat around the lunch table relating the tales of the paintball fights.. sigh...

Oh there is so much to tell but I guess that's the beauty of experiences, the memory it leaves. That feeling of nostalgia.. 2013 is coming to and end and I continue to sense greater things to come.. So here's to New Beginnings & Happy Endings....

A special and huge thank you to all my friends for always being there and making this year, as every other, a memorable one... ♥

Tuesday, 8 October 2013

Glorious Spring haze..and daze

I lay out here in my balcony basking in the beauty of the crisp blue sea as gentle waves caress its surface.. I have the honour to laze in this gorgeous Spring afternoon as I make the most of my time at home between leaving my old job for a new one (more on that next time). For now it's late mornings and sundowners. I can't help but feel this calmness that watching the ocean brings to me. But at the same time my thoughts are so scattered. Hence the title of this post. Im in an inbetween place. Between anxiety and elation of my new opportunity and the extreme build up of the December Summer that's teasing me from around the corner. Oh how I cannot wait for her to come out and play.. As much as I'd like to wrap this year up I know that there's still so much to come. But for now I shall lay here and drink in this moment while I smile and ponder whimsically in my Spring haze..and daze...

Saturday, 28 September 2013

Heart to heart

Ok so I'm breaking a personal record and blogging two posts in one morning. That means there's little cheerleaders dancing in my head cheering "woohoo go Kathija!!".. This post was also conjured up yesterday but has been influenced by friends, family and experiences from the past weeks. As the title suggests, this is going to be a long but real and hearty post. Issues and thoughts that I feel need to be opinionated. So here goes..

Recently I have been introduced to blogs come short stories about peoples's experiences in life and love. From Muhammed Ismail's "To find a bride" and Tasneem Basha's "To find a groom" I have been inspired to do a post of my own. Whilst the thought of creating a 130 piece long post is quite tempting, I do have a full time job and architecture kind of has a possessive personality. So I use this cold grey Saturday morning to think out loud.

After reading the said blogs I think about how lucky those two individuals are to find love and each other in such an exciting way. And here I am faced with the dillema of either surrending to the "samoosa run" where my family picks out a nice guy for me and I'll be subjected to the awkward meeting of this stranger Or do I set on on a quest to find my soul mate. Both the latter and former are daunting tasks so what happens then. For those women who are just unlucky in love what do they do? Should they tweak their morals and ethics to please a man's needs with the hope that he'd want more and possibly form a meaningful relationship or should they stick to their good old "friends" with the hope that she will be seen as more than just that? It's just not fair. The journey of finding ones own mate isn't easy for everybody. How do we know if the guy is serious or just playing around? How do we know what he's really after? And trying to find someone with the hope that it will be an exciting tale to your kids one day seems so far fetched. I mean most of the males I know are either from school or campus. The closest I can come to a "how i met your mother " kind of scenario is with a close friend of mine who we both met by accident and coincidence twice and then went on to what we call now as "good friends"..

Really there surely is an easier way. Do us good and homely girls settle for our families choice in partners? What if their choice is your destined mate that will reap in years of happiness and beautiful children? That's always a possibility.. Or do we fall for the wrong men who just don't feel that way about us, get hurt, repeat the process, until we meet "the one"..

There are people who change their promiscuos ways, heck, who even change their religion for their partner but then there are those who wont even want to hold up a conversation with you unless its about sex..

These are just some of my thoughts. Quite profound for being conjured up in a shower. They aren't facts or solutions. Merely my opinion that millions of women face around the world regardless of colour, creed or religion. And while some women are lucky enough to have found their fairytale , this is real.

I sincerely hope that we all find what we looking for. For those who are too proud, jump off your high horse before you pass the stop. For those who are too scared, take the chance and surprise yourself. For those who have been hurt, not everyone is the same, give another the chance..

Thanks to:

Spring has Sprung!

Although things aren't the same today as when I conjured up this post in my head yesterday, I shall go ahead and blog it anyway..
From my oh so cliche title my excitement is quite evident. Yesterday was a dreamy hot Summer's haze. The thick hot air of Durban made it's brief appearance. Now I'm no lover of one night stands so my frustration and sadness that today is a rather grey and dreary day is really alarming. Amazing isn't it, that how weather can have such great effects on ones mood and bring nostalgic memories to mind.. Or this could just be my inner December baby spirit talking..

That being said, I cannot wait for December. And even though we're a whole two months away I cant help feeling the build up of my ecitement like a child standing in line for the boat ride...

I wish you all a beautiful Spring.

Thursday, 22 August 2013


If you do not let go it will consume you
Being this person untamed by senses is not an eternal character
For it will soon fade and perish like the memory of yourself to those whom have hurt you
What do you think you will accomplish from it
Fickle beings will ruin you for it is only in stability that you will find true pleasure
Your reward awaits you lest you keep avoiding it
The more you fool yourself into believing this will work, the more it will cajole you
Why can’t you see what is good like the dew on Spring’s children so pure and loved by all
Is the laughter of the devil’s hail so enticing that you see not past the storm
Or do you find comfort in the dwelling of frivolous mischief that will never last longer than a moment
If friends were God you would surely be among the losers
But hope still lurks around the corner
For you are loved more than hate itself
And it will be through this love that you will eventually learn comfort, peace and true happiness
Ambivalence will not prevail

Ode to the light that will shine on you

Friday, 16 August 2013

When all is said & done..

Ramadaan and Eid have come and gone, we've finally settled into the new apartment and all the minor and major hurdles have been overcome. The past few weeks have been immensely stressful, frustrating and exhausting and it had taken a toll on everyone in my family. But at the end of it all, we had all come together again and had a beautiful Eid.

The question now is what is to come. What's next and where to from here. Mum is already looking for new properties and Hajra is setting her sights on Dubai. So where does that leave me. I can only say that I'm looking beyond the horizon and that there are only bigger things to come..

This feeling of relief is amazing and I don't want it to end. But I know very well that it'll only last until the next mountain. I guess that's the beauty of it, you have to experience the rains and hails to know the sun and warmth just like you have to experience frustration and sadness to know peace and happiness.

I'm just glad that things always come up daisy for me when all is said and done...

Tuesday, 30 July 2013

Moving house

This post should actually be titled "Moving mountains" because that's what it feels like moving into a new home.. For those who don't know, my mum has sold our house and we've gotten a smaller apartment. It has been a gradual decision and change to leave my Sydenham home especially after the passing away of my dad and then my sister getting married. Those events had left mum, Hajra and I alone in a big house and yard and led to my mum deciding to sell and move on. Not to mention the safety factor or shall I say unsafe factor with Sydenham, and in particular my road, becoming prone to crimes in the recent months..

Anyway after months of searching for a suitable home that all three of us highly opinionated individuals approve of, we finally found a quaint apartment on Marriot Road call Hurlingham. The building is fairly small in contrast to it's large and elongated appearance. It boasts a beautiful lawn and garden area, perfect for my mum to spend her summer days.

Our apartment itself is small and cosy and as I like to think, homely. However coming from a big house the change is not going to be easy. But then again, who said change ever is. Major adjustments are gonna have to be made by all three of us. There's now only one bathroom instead of our usual 3 at home. And Hajra and I, who have never shared a room in our life, let alone a bed, are now gonna be sharing. Oh dear. Oh dear indeed..

Mum is having quite a difficult time herself deciding what she should take and what she should give away as there are things all over the house that cannot be taken with. There's literally something in every corner of the house that we just don't know what to do with! Luckily getting rid of major furniture like the couches wasn't much of a hassle as it got sold quick.. But even still.. This is a tedious task.

Moving house is not an easy experience especially when you're downsizing. Apparently we should be moved in by tomorrow evening. I don't actually see that happening considering I haven't even packed as yet. Oh well.. I'll be sure to keep you posted on the move and relate to you all the funny, frustrating and fun moments that my madhatter family is sure to encounter.. This is going to be a far from dull experience...

Thursday, 25 July 2013

Graduation - Architecture - 2013!!!

Okay so I know this is a bit delayed, okay really delayed, but I've only come across the pics today lol. So I decided to share them with you.. These are the formal pics taken on stage and include some of my closest and most treasured friends (don't I have the most beautiful friends).. Enjoy...




Meeee!!! :D

Nadhir aka Jappie


Janine aka J9







Fabian - Quantity Surveying <3

Durban University of Technology
Steve Biko Campus
15th April 2013
Graduation 2013

Monday, 22 July 2013

fashion obsession - brights & neutrals

I had fallen in love with this outfit from the moment I lay eyes on them. The colours, the materials. everything! Not forgetting that must-have clutch! I think this look is perfect for the long and leggy beauties who will pull this off effortlessly.. So this gorgeous coral maxi with neutrals and leather is this weeks fashion obsession...

Monday, 15 July 2013

Monday Inspiration

"You can do what you have to do, and sometimes you can do it even better than you think you can."

-former President Jimmy Carter-

Mondays don't always have to be blue. Put your best foot forward and surprise yourself...

Thursday, 11 July 2013

my enchanted

Airports. oceans, skies and abandoned buildings. These are just a few of the things that I find magically enchanting. But one of my favourite has to be secret gardens and fairies. I don't know when and how this fantasy started but I have always loved the idea of being in a secret garden with fairies or just beautiful flowers and plants with ponds and birds. Not to mention that there's something so hopelessly romantic about a musky garden at sunset when scents of lavender and roses create a sense of captivating sensuality..
And of course I am a fan of The Secret Garden book and film and as you know, of Tinkerbell so maybe that's how it all began?...
I just thought I'd share this magical obsession with you and hope you like the  images below...

fashion obsession - hidden Beauty

This fashion obsession post is inspired by Islamic wear, the Hijab. It is truly a beautiful style that millions of Muslim women embrace which hides their valuable possessions yet flaunts their beauty, radiance and modest character. The Hijab is becoming more and more understood and accepted globally and it is fast becoming no longer a misconception of oppression but rather a symbol of hidden beauty, piety and purity. Being in the Islamic month of Ramadaan, I think it is fitting to showcase this gorgeous and unique style.. Just like a Muslim woman...

Wednesday, 10 July 2013

where my aspirations lead..

Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I an look up and see the beauty, believe in them and try to follow where they lead...

Beautiful words by Louisa May Alcott.

Ramadaan Mubarak!

It's that special time of the year again for Muslims across the world. The time for prayer, worship and reflection. And not forgetting the samoosas, spring rolls and haleem! Mmmm definitely my favourite month of the Islamic year. But mouth watering food aside, this is the auspicious month for all Muslims to unite under the banner of Islam and become the strong Ummah (community) we once were. This is the month of charity to help the widows and the orphans, the starving and the destitute. To remind ourselves that nothing in this world is permanent and that our main goal should be to achieve the highest status in the Hereafter. Let remember our poverty stricken stricken brothers and sisters and try to fill their tummies before we fill ours. Let us forgive all those whom we have hurt and who have hurt us before we ask God to forgive us. Let us make the intention to better ourselves. not just for this month but for the rest of our lives. And let us bask in God's mercy before it's too late..

Wishing all my brothers and sisters in Islam a pious and blessed Ramadaan Mubarak...


Friday, 5 July 2013

Wo0o0h0o0o Friday!!!

Wow it has been a l0oo0ong week I kid you not! Even this morning has been pretty hectic. But between designing and putting a big quote together I still managed to find the time to blog hehehe :D.. Nevertheless I'm in a pretty fabulous mood (despite the dreary weather) and well to share exactly how I feel I've posted the pic below.. Hope you feeling that way too. So here's to an awesome weekend!

oh dear, Durban!

Whoa what's going on in Durban??!! The rain, the cold, the grey skies.. Now I am generally a cold blooded gal but even I'm freezing my touche off! Durbanites are just not cut out for this.. So I guess it's out with the layering and boots oh oh! and dreamy hot chocolates..Mmm maybe this weather isn't so bad after all...:p

Tuesday, 2 July 2013

The Fairy Ring

I picked up this lovely poem by Eugene Thornton called The Fairy Ring.. I am an avid reader of poetry and with my love for fairies and all things magical I instantly fell in love with this beautiful piece. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do...

Tinkerbell Love

If there was one character I would wold love to be, it would have to be Peter Pan's Tinkerbell. I absolutely love everything about her. Her spunk, creativity and sometimes clumsiness. Not to mention she's adorable! There is no fairy better than Tink! I've always found her and her world so enchanting, a place I'd love to live in. Tinkerbell has and will always hold a special place in my heart..


Thursday, 27 June 2013

still Thursday!

I know I know, we all wishing it were Friday already. But it's not. So don't throw in the papers just yet...

Tuesday, 25 June 2013

my Love is for Disney

sigh..I still remember so fondly coming home, oh sorry, racing home after school to catch Disney's Cartoon Cafe (DCC) on yotv. That was one of the greatest times of my life. Waking up at 5a.m so that I don't miss a single show. I absolutely love Disney and all its magical characters ever since my first VHS (yes, VHS) of The Lion King. And since then I've been hooked! The Lion King 1 &  2 and then the Toy Story franchise and everything in between.

I even had the Disney bubble baths, shampoo and lotions! I still remember the theme songs to every Disney cartoon be it Herculese, 101 dalmations or Goof Troop. I even remember the countless letters I had written in to DCC with the famous tagline "DCC is the BOMB!!"..Lol good times good times..

Now at the youthful age of 21 I am proud to say that I am still a die hard fan of the Disney franchise, of all the past and present movies and all the characters especially my favourite, Mickey mouse (who I called my bf for a crazy number of years). I still enjoy Mickey Mouse Club House on DisneyJnr. There is something just so magical about it all. And I had the stickers, the sticker book collections.

I even used to save as much as I could (my parents never understood or funded my obsession -__-) to buy Disney products such as crayons and pastels and colouring books. And I still have them all till this day! So I might be the ultimate Disney fan..but what can I say, my love is for Disney <3...